So I thought I would start my blogging with some of my own observations and thoughts about self image. It’s a real thing, and the funny thing is that pretty much everyone I meet has the same kind of thoughts about themselves. Whether they are a new model, or a published Playboy playmate, very few people don’t see themselves as ‘flawed’ in some way.
My tits are too small, my tits are too big, they are lopsided, I look fat. I look too skinny. You can see my scars. My teeth are crooked/dirty. I’m not pretty enough. I wish I looked like her.
Listen – I get it. After all this ‘Stay at Home’ stuff started, I have been using Zoom for conference calls and I look at everyone and see myself as the ugliest guy on the call, with a big ugly nose and lines on my face, a crooked eye and a frown most of the time.
Why are we so hard on ourselves?
I shoot all kinds of girls, but for the most part the commonality is that they are all nude. In a way that can be very empowering. There are no masks to hide who you are. Sure, there is makeup, and Photoshop, but for the most part I like my photos to be as natural as possible. Do I Photoshop out some blemishes or scars? Yes I do. Why? For me it’s because I think of how I would want my photos to look. My own self-conscious image issues get projected as I edit. Is that wrong? I’m not sure. Sometimes I feel guilty of perpetuating that ‘perfect girl’ myth by editing small things and wonder how my own work might negatively affect girls who feel they are not as pretty as my photos.
I did post a set of photos completely untouched as an experiment, and they are beautiful.
You see how this issue gets complicated fast.
I will say that I get that we all think we are not as beautiful as others and we focus on our own flaws, but after working with lots of girls that are so varied in physical characteristics I can say that I truly find them all beautiful. Their very differences like small or large boobs, curvy or slim frames and different facial expressions make them unique and interesting.
For me I start to appreciate certain things that were not my ‘ideal’ characteristics. I was never a fan of tattoos or piercings and I loved small perky boobs. Now I really appreciate those things, both as art, expression and variety.
I’d love to hear some of your thoughts or feelings about this.
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